Except for the bride & groom fashion shoot and the family portraits, shooting a wedding largely is an exercise in photojournalism. I don’t consider myself a great photojournalist by any means, but I have significantly improved over the years by following this important principle: it is okay to watch and wait.
Working with dozens of 2nd shooters over the years, I’ve noticed that many of them rush from shot to shot, anxious that they are going to “miss something” happening somewhere else. However, sometimes the best images result through patience – the ability to just sit there and be ready, and not shoot until you see something developing.
Here’s an example from my most recent wedding. This isn’t award-winning photography or anything like that, but simply a very nice moment captured because of my willingness to wait.
In the groom’s “getting ready” room, I noticed one of the groomsmen having a conversation with the groom’s sister.

Nothing is really going on, just a normal conversation. However, the sister was clearly telling a story. I waited, then waited some more. Eventually, she got to the punch line as I knew she would, which resulted in this image:

As a sequence, the two images together portray a light moment which helps tell the story of the day.
I probably sat there for 3-4 minutes, not doing anything – no shooting – but just sitting on the floor and listening. My subjects forgot I was there. I knew the payoff would come when the story ended. Now doing nothing but listening for 3-4 minutes might seem like an eternity, but it’s okay. You don’t always have to be shooting every minute of the day.
I wouldn’t have gotten these images when I first started out, because I would have been unwilling to wait for it. I would have been looking through the viewfinder at all times, searching for something to shoot. Then I would have heard the laughter, turned around and tried to get the shot, but it would already have been too late.
So that’s my quick tip of the day: relax, observe, and wait. It will pay off with better and more meaningful images. As a side benefit, you’ll have far fewer images to review and delete when editing.
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Great advice. This would bring more useful photos instead of a bunch of "same pose" photos. Thanks again. (November 14, 2012 | 09:30am)
This is great advice, and it is counter to the amateur instinct to keep moving/shooting when doing event photography. I'm shooting a lot more elementary yearbook work this year, and this tip applies very well to photographing kids. If you're "chasing the moment" you'll rarely catch it with children, but if you're waiting for it as you suggest then it will come to you. The craft, of course, is knowing how/when/where to wait :) This is why I'm a software engineer and you're the photog! (November 15, 2012 | 11:24am)
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Wonderful tip! Composition and lighting we can control, but it's often the key ingredient (the moment) that makes the photo memorable. So much of this skill is a people skill that can be practiced. Joe Buissink once reminded me the importance of how to prompt & create moments. Ask the bride “How are you feeling in this moment?” to elicit emotion. “Works every time,” Joe says. ”Moment between moments” can reveal the essence of emotion, like the anticipation of a punchline of a joke. These moments become crystalized in time and in 20 years, such lucid memories will be remembered ‘like yesterday.’ I share this tip and more in an archived post: http://www.kern-photo.com/index.php/2009/08/joe-buissink-behind-the-podium (November 20, 2012 | 10:32am)
This is easily one of my top 5 sites when it comes to learning something new or reading an insightful review. Thanks Laurence! (November 24, 2012 | 10:38am)
I totally agree that shooting a wedding is really an excercise in photojournalism. If you dont have a sense of timing and understand the context, most likely you are not going to create beautiful images. (January 21, 2013 | 11:44pm)
Good tip. Weddings can get so hectic that it's sometimes hard to slow down and get the kind of natural shot that you've posted. Watching and waiting should be one of the things that we do best (Just need to remember that when I'm having my next major wedding panic!). (February 14, 2013 | 12:27pm)
A great lesson in slowing down and waiting for the moment. Such good advice for the PJ approach. (February 16, 2013 | 09:42am)